Q&A
If a woman doesn't feel loved she don't respect. And if a man doesn't feel respected, he doesn't love. Why all this Drama?
I don’t want to say it's a DRAMA but a MYSTERY!!! You may be wondering why?
Let us take our time to understand the following; Scripture teaches us that Christians should honor or respect all men(people) 1 Peter 2:17 Show proper respect to everyone, love the family of believers, fear God, honor the emperor.
Every human being bears the image of God, and so, of course, we are called on to respect and honor that. And of course, Scripture also teaches us to love our neighbor (Leviticus 19:18), and Jesus our Lord makes this point clearly in Luke 10:29–37 that our neighbor is a person God has placed right in front of us to love and respect. So, all Christians are to love everyone, and all Christians should honor and respect everyone. That is the baseline.
But when we come down
to the particular relationship of husbands to wives, and wives to husbands,
Scripture gives us an important, additional emphasis. Husbands are told
specifically to love their wives as Christ loved the church (Ephesians 5:25). Wives are told specifically to submit/respect their husbands
as the church does Christ (Ephesians 5:33).
Beloved in the Lord firstly, the command
reveals something about the needs of the recipient. In other words, if the
Bible said that shepherds should feed the sheep, a reasonable interpretation
would be that sheep need food. When husbands are told to love their wives, we
can conclude from this that wives need to be loved. When wives are told to
Submit/respect their husbands, we can also conclude from this that husbands
need to be respected.
Think of it as two kinds of cars that run on
different kinds of fuel — diesel and petrol, say. Husband run on respect, and
wives run on love. Therefore, fill your spouse’s tank with the right fuel.”
In saying this, remember that we are talking about emphasis. Therefore, the focus here is not the feeling
of not being respected nor love but doing what is expected of you as the
husband or wife which will surly produce results demand. This brings
us to the second thing I want to draw our attention upon; Love
and submission/respect are potent (powerful) action words
The Bible teaches that this kind of love and submission/respect
are efficacious. Romans 5:8 But
God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ
died for us
Ephesians 5:26 that
he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the
word
Husbands are to imitate the love of Christ (which efficaciously
made his bride, the Church lovely) in their relationships with their wives, A
woman who is loved by her husband is a woman who will surly grow in loveliness.
Yes! You reap what you sow. The same kind of potency can be found in a godly
woman’s submission/respect. This is why Peter tells
us that reverent and chaste behavior can break down a man’s disobedient spirit
in 1 Peter 3:1–2 “Likewise, wives,
be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word,
they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives, when they see
your respectful and pure conduct”.
The Question here is; What are we sowing in our relationships?
When we concentrate on our selfish interest it
because difficult to see respect and love in God’s perspective but if only, we
come to terms in understanding that the truth about these two has nothing to do
with negotiation and compromise before their manifestation from either the
husband or wife but rather they are part of the reasons to why we exist in such
a Covenant.